We’ve All Grown Apart From Friends We Once Couldn’t Live Without

Not all friendships can withstand the test of time and that’s okay. As we evolve as individuals, sometimes people who meant the world to us at one point, seem to have no place in our lives any longer. Some dissolve due to geography, some due to changing interests and obligations, and some, simply because the updated version of you can’t seem to identify with them.

While the reasons for friends to grow apart are far too many to be listed, what we’re talking about today, is how normal that is, despite it not feeling like at times. Just as we cut off the dead ends of our hair, so that it doesn’t hamper growth – learning to let go of certain friendships is an essential part of self-care.

Winds of change

Since most of us have been through this phase, where we look back and wonder “Wow, we were so close… whatever happened?”, we know that dealing with a friend becoming a total stranger is not only hurtful but extremely odd. You bump into them on the street or at a nightclub, and you greet them with a reserved, “Oh hi! How have you been?” Instead of the wild hug and scream that you used to. Of course, that’s going to be strange, right? But it’s also a clear indicator that either one, or both, wasn’t able to live up to that friendship, owing to maybe nothing else but growing up.

Nurturing a bond

Solid friendships require a sense of balance built on even ground. If that foundation seems to be cracked or shifting, it’s a major sign that you need to move on. No matter what age you are, as humans, we’re always learning and growing, and in order for a friendship to sustain, two (or more) people need to be in sync with each other. If you introspect and come to a conclusion that that isn’t happening – it’s a good decision to release those bonds, with love and respect.

Disaster-prone zone

The thing is: friendships are unique relationships. Unlike family, these are those we get to choose before entering into them. Unlike other voluntary bonds like marriages and romantic relationships, they lack a formal structure. This voluntary nature of it makes it subject to life’s whims in a way formal relationships aren’t. Hence, as situations and circumstances stay, they are bound to take a hit, more often than not.

Letting go…

Even though it’s difficult, drifting away from people you once thought you couldn’t live without is a part of life. Let it teach you to carry forth the value they added to your life at some point. The good times you shared with them, doesn’t need to fade away like your connection does. The only right way to deal with this is to forgive one another, and seek fullness within.